Recognizing Your Boaz
So, you decided to Wait
On Your Boaz. You have read about Ruth and Boaz, read blog post from Wait
On Your Boaz, preparing yourself to receive your Boaz and prayed to God to send
you your Boaz. Now What?
In order to receive who God has for you, you have to know
what to look for. Many women complain that there are no ‘good me’ out here for
them, when in reality, many women pass up the good men for the jerks because
they cannot tell the difference.
Your Boaz should NOT be just about good looks, a nice smile,
smooth words, nice job and car, muscular build, fashionable clothes and big
connections. If he does have all that, great! But that is NOT what you should
be looking for.
If you want to recognize the guy that God is sending you, you
must think like God. How does God choose? Let’s look at what God said to Samuel
when He was selecting a king for Israel
“But the Lord said
to Samuel, “Do not look at his appearance or at his physical stature, because I
have refused him. For the Lord does not
see as man sees; for
man looks at the outward appearance, but the
Lord looks at the
heart.”
I Samuel 16:7
God knows looks can be
deceiving and chances are, most guys in general tend to put their best foot
forward to get you hooked. It is only too often that the ‘now’ love struck
woman finds out his true colors down the road.
So let’s look at some
guidelines to look for when waiting for your Boaz.
- Christian. Make sure your potential
Boaz is a practicing Christian. I’ve stated good reasons for the ‘why’. A
man who is accountable to God will be much more likely to treat and
respect you in a godly manner than one who is not.
I ‘do’ want to point out the ‘making sure’ of his
Christian status. Anyone can talk a good game and this is why ‘waiting’ is
imperative. Wait and observe how deep his Christianity goes. Does it show only
when you are around, or is it full on all the time? Does he pray with you? Read
the Bible with you? Attend church with you? Is he respecting you according to
God’s standards? And everyone else? Wait and watch and all will be revealed.
- Affectionate. Love and affection are
extremely important in any
Relationship. Your potential Boaz should be
‘loving’ and looking to give his love away to you. Under God, you should be a
major priority in his life.
Don’t fool yourself by making excuses why he
cannot treat you the way you deserve to be treated. There is NO excuse for
abuse and neglect. Let me clarify that; men ‘make’ excuses, but you should NOT
accept excuses for abusive and neglectful behavior. God will NEVER send you an
abusive and neglectful man from Himself.
- Work Ethic. Is this soon to be Boaz
a worker? Can he provide? Is
he a hard and consistent worker? Or does he make
excuses for why he cannot get his life together?
If your Boaz cannot work steady or makes excuses
for why he cannot work, what will happen when he becomes your mate? Make sure your
Boaz, or potential Boaz has a J-O-B and works hard for himself and his future,
because that future may some day include you.
- Life Goals. Your Boaz and you should
share similar goals; at least
Goals that move you in the same direction. You
cannot hope to succeed if you have two different visions and moving in two
different directions.
If you want a family, a nice home, maybe some
vacation time; it will not work if your Boaz wants no kids or cannot control
his finances. What if he is consumed with ambition? You may find yourself and
your dreams being placed on the back burner.
Take your time and discuss his past, present and
future. Find out where he’s been, where he’s at now and where he sees himself
in the future. Go slow so you can observe things clearly.
These are some basic
things to look for. God will not send you dysfunction or confusion. He will not
send abuse and neglect. He will not sent you selfishness or immorality. God
looks at the heart and He will not send you a Boaz whose heart is not ready to
be with you.
Your job is to WAIT!
Wait and go slow with open eyes. PURPOSELY look and check to see if your
potential Boaz is the real deal and not an imitator. If God has kept you
waiting for your Boaz, a little more waiting will not hurt the outcome. Waiting
will only reveal what is hidden.
“For whatever is
hidden is meant to be disclosed, and whatever is concealed is meant to be
brought out into the open,”
Mark 4:22
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